One of the old saws that has proven right for me is the older I get, the sharper life comes into focus.
One example of this how much more valuable I see time today than when I was young.
Jack Bauer summarizes this sentiment quite nicely when he says, on every single episode of 24, “We are running out of time!”
Initially, I thought the way to get more value out of time was to manage it well. Master that, and I would be happier and have no regrets.
Soon, Franklin Covey (remember them?) and then Outlook came along, helping us fill our calendars with style and ease. A full schedule, after all, was nirvana.
This full calendar ethic was perfectly exemplified in an email I once received at work that showed a picture of someone’s Outlook with sixteen back-to-back appointments across an eight-hour day along with the caption, “We need more of this!” Um, maybe not.
Then, overnight, came some backlash to the full calendar strategy. Going back-to-back, every day was not so much a road to nirvana as much as a direct route to additional stress. Even if one of the appointments was for yoga.
I started seeing articles talking about saying no to “needless” meetings. I was also told to schedule myself some “unstructured time,” so I could be more creative and bring higher energy levels to my meetings. “No meeting day!” became a thing for some companies in the Silicon Valley.
It seemed the full calendar ideal was slowly being replaced by a less full one that aimed at fewer, higher quality, appointments. I like this idea of the more meaningful and relevant calendar very much. But how?
So today, before I put anything on my calendar I ask myself these three questions:
Yes to all three? No hesitation, slap it on the calendar.
Two yeses? Pause. Give it a little extra thought before committing and putting on the calendar.
One yes? Give it serious thought. Be brutally honest with yourself. Check your motives. Still feel strongly? Then, go for it!
I used to say, “busy is good!” With age, I’ve realized, “busy is just busy.”
The goal with this exercise is simple, create more space on the calendar by ensuring the appointments you have are necessary and/or have the likelihood of a good outcome. If they don’t, the answer should be, no, thank you. My experience is everyone benefits if you take the free time instead.
Free, unscheduled time creates room for thought, reading, learning, and moments of spontaneity and creativity. Extra time will let you prepare for the appointments you keep, and, better equipped for them, your meetings will go better. With fewer meetings, you’ll feel less stress. Heck, you might even find some magic creeping into your day!
And when you have all that, you’ll be happier and more pleasant to work with.
Wherever you are, commit to being there when you are there. Giving others your full undivided attention is one of the greatest things you can do. It shows respect. Then, listen well. Resist the urge to interrupt. Look people in the eye. Sit in the silence. Give people time to provide thoughtful answers.
And, please, don’t bring your cell phone. It’s rude. If you must bring it, at least power it down before the meeting. Again, respect.
And one last thing, if you conclude your business early, it’s OK to end the meeting early “giving back time.” Because it seems everyone appreciates some extra time!