We have all heard the expression, “older and wiser!”
Wisdom, however, is a bit of a booby prize in that the insights gained would have been far more valuable applied decades earlier in one’s life.
So, the great question is, “knowing what you know now, what would you tell your younger self!”
There are a bunch of things I’d say to myself. Too many, I’m sure. But as reported previously I’ve given up on simplicity.
List of Things I’d Tell my Younger Self
- Find a passion and embrace it. Then get it out there. Develop it. Compete. Believe in your capacity to steadily improve – you will if you keep at it. Plus finding your way will be easier as doors open for those with genuine passion.
- On the other hand, you can deprioritize your passions, or convince yourself you have none. Prepare, then, to compartmentalize your work life as ” income” that can support other interests (family, hobbies). This is not a bad thing. But, for some, this will leave you feeling empty.
- Don’t take that critical inner voice too seriously, because it will talk you out of “foolish” things (like following your passions). That voice is always there.
- Develop an inner Mantra – I like “do it now” – use it to calm you down, overwrite those aforementioned critical thoughts, and will keep you going.
- If you find an influential mentor, take ALL of their advice. Otherwise, it’s not really their advice anymore, it’s just your own advice with someone to blame for it not working out.
- Remember, don’t fool yourself – and you’re the easiest person to fool.
- Define your own terms for success. Nothing worse than living someone else’s life. Create and raise your own bar and never settle.
- Learn to love exercise and make it a daily necessity. Being fit is better than being fat.
- Take the lead on building relationships. You can never have too many friends. What’s the value of a lifetime friend?
- Start saving money now – even if it’s not much – and keep saving. Learn to live below your means. You can’t have too much money.
- When spending money, prioritize experiences and personal development above stuff.
- Be discrete when buying stuff. You can have too much “stuff.” My rule, delay all bigger purchases for 30 days. If I still really like it a month later, then, and only then, can I consider buying it.
- Strive to become “easy to work with” and champion others along the way by aiding in their development.
- If you find a partner who sees eye to eye with you, who you love and who loves you back, don’t let go. Build a life together, then if you can, a family. Make it work. Parenting is genuinely challenging, but also ineffably satisfying. Best of all, kids thrive in a loving home.
- Develop a daily routine – habits will define you in the long run and give the added value of bringing you peace of mind.
- One habit to develop – get a scale and weigh yourself every day. So much easier to lose two pounds than twenty (or more).
- Finally, while it’s OK to be passionate it’s also important to “calm the F down!” No one likes being with someone who is all jacked up about everything, all the time. Remain calm, patient, and disciplined. Almost everything will all work out!
In summary, life is short so get on with it. Don’t waste time. Sure, there are a million details to figure out, but believe me, you can do it. Just begin, now.
And, please, avoid users, losers, and trolls. There are more of these than you’d think and they will not help you.